Hey Sinamika – Stereotypes at all levels

Hey Sinamika, a very nice, light movie. This movie has taken lovely twists and turns to showcase stereotypes, minds, perceptions, etc in a very light and subtle way. It’s a story of a Girl & a Boy. She falls in love with a boy who is not working, he is a lovely person, a home husband, passionate about cooking, keeping the house beautiful, Loves gardening, loves to care and pampering his wife, he insists upon ensuring she is fed well and looked after very well, he is knowledgeable and very much vehement about what he wants, how he wants the society and the life. It’s idealistic yet realistic to follow. A woman finds his talkativeness, care, overwhelming loving expression attarctive, yet it becomes claustrophobic. She is unable to take it anymore. We as a woman are used to caring, cooking, and being artistic, taking control of household things, and maybe because we are conditioned that way. It is about accepting him as an opposite of a stereotypical Man, now doing all those daily chores, talkative which otherwise is associated with a woman, he is a lover of life.

From my gender neutrality perspective, I think it may be that the character of Mona is not able to handle the fine-tuned femininity in a man surfacing in its original form. Though masculinity is equally visible and maybe both have a perfectly balanced within him but society is not ready to take it in its evolved form. Very beautifully the movie has exhibited the opposite roles yet these are not opposite poles the opposite roles have got to do with what they’re expected to do and the opposite poles, are not on the extreme end of the polarity. If I look at this man I see him continuously moving on various dimensions of the polarity without getting trapped in the role he is able to express himself the way he feels moment by moment. In another scenario Mona wants to get rid of her husband and wants to find freedom from his love & care hence, she brings another woman into life and that woman falls in love with him. The story goes with some drama and in the end, the couple concludes to accept each other, remain with each other the way we are, and continue with each other without trying to change. This is the beauty of the gender wherein there is acceptance of a person beyond the conditioning. The learning from this movie comes from the various dimensions of Polarity when one is able to move instead of getting stagnated at the end of the Pole to find a solution.

Also, in the role of Kajal who is supposed to be the relationship counselor, her own anger against men has been the trigger to punish a lot of men who have cheated on their partners. As rightly at the end, she says, till now she separated couples to punish but henceforth she will bring them together to live together. This is the truth, separation, conflict is part and parcel of life that’s happening. Whatever decision one has to take, taking care of self and relationship is something only that person can decide. As a third party, she can influence the outcome with knowledge but she cannot control the outcome by thinking about the end result of punishing a man. The anger she may have is because of the experiences she had with men in her life, here again, a movie in a little way is showing issues women face in relationships, yet those triggers can not be exercised to solve the problems of another relationship, each has a different solution. In a short time, the movie has touched upon many things Gender, stereotypes, reverse role, a woman’s anger against the opposite gender, and evolving relationships.